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Love style test: how do you love?

Do you fall fast and hard, or does love grow slowly from friendship? Rate 24 statements to find your main love style among the six described by sociologist John Alan Lee.

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How well does each statement describe you? Answer as you usually are, not as you would like to be.

  1. I felt a strong attraction to my partner (or crush) almost at once.

  2. I like to keep my options open rather than commit to one person.

  3. My favourite relationships grew slowly out of a friendship.

  4. Before I get serious with someone, I think about whether our lives fit together.

  5. When I'm in love, I can't stop thinking about the other person.

  6. I would rather suffer myself than let the person I love suffer.

  7. My partner and I have a special chemistry.

  8. Love is more fun when it's light and doesn't get too serious.

  9. The best love is a deep friendship that has turned into something more.

  10. Shared values and goals matter more to me than romance.

  11. If my partner doesn't reply for a while, I start to worry.

  12. I'd give up my own plans to help the person I love reach theirs.

  13. I believe in falling in love at first sight.

  14. I've enjoyed flirting with more than one person at the same time.

  15. I trust a love that has had time to grow more than one that starts with fireworks.

  16. I'd like a partner who would be a good parent and a reliable teammate.

  17. I get jealous easily, even when I know I shouldn't.

  18. I care for my partner without expecting anything back.

  19. Physical closeness and romance are at the heart of love for me.

  20. Some things about my love life are better kept to myself.

  21. I want my partner to be my best friend.

  22. I'd think carefully about how a partner would fit with my family and career.

  23. When a relationship is going badly, I can't eat or sleep properly.

  24. Loving someone means accepting them completely, faults and all.

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About this test

In 1973 the sociologist John Alan Lee described six styles of loving, named with Greek and Latin words: Eros (passionate), Ludus (playful), Storge (friendship), Pragma (practical), Mania (possessive) and Agape (selfless). Most people mix several, and the mix can change with age and with each relationship.

The statements here were written for cv.cm and are inspired by Lee's model; this is not the published Love Attitudes Scale. Your result names your strongest style and shows your scores for all six. Different styles can work well together once partners understand each other.

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FAQ

What are the six love styles?

Eros (passionate, romantic love), Ludus (love as a playful game), Storge (love that grows from friendship), Pragma (practical, well-matched love), Mania (intense, anxious love) and Agape (selfless, giving love).

Is one love style the best?

No single style is best. Studies link Eros and Agape with more satisfying relationships and Mania with more jealousy and worry, but what matters most is that partners understand each other's style.

Is this the same as love languages?

No. Love languages are about how you like to give and receive affection. Love styles are about how you approach love itself: how fast you fall, what you look for and how intense it feels.

Can my love style change?

Yes. Lee saw the styles as attitudes, not fixed traits. They shift with experience, age and the partner you're with.